We kind of look up to Poppy Jamie, the best-selling author of Happy Not Perfect and creator/host of the Unwind with Poppy Jamie podcast. She has made it her life’s mission to put happiness first and to block out everything that could be taking it away. Naturally, when she used the word “micro-joys,” we wanted to start pursuing them right away.
A micro-joy could be something that makes us happy, such as a tasty meal or a hug. And yes, there is delight associated with such things. Micro-joy, on the other hand, is the resonant, gratifying delight that arises from inside while engaging in certain behaviours.
Author of Micro-joys: Finding Hope (Especially) When Life Is Not Okay, Cyndie Spiegel, was the subject of a recent edition of the podcast Unwind with Poppy Jamie.
Here are the four lessons Poppy learned from Cydie that can help you increase your level of pleasure over the long run and find joy even through the most trying times in life:
1. THE VIRTUE OF PATIENCE
We must continue to work on being patient. Everything will work itself out and come together if you have patience. Panicking won’t make a cake bake more quickly or bring you the blessings you’re hoping for. It’s crucial to change the focus of our stories about pleasure and joy to an internal state of being and to give those challenging emotions space to exist until they pass.
2. ALLOW YOURSELF A FEW MINUTES TO SIT
Because we think we need to be always active, cultivating relaxation is a critical component that we frequently neglect. By allowing ourselves to take a break, we may think back on all the wonderful things that make life so joyful for us. Consider the types of activities that make you feel restful.’ Although it might very well be, resting does not always involve lying down and watching a movie. Rest can occasionally involve going for a stroll, seeing friends, or cooking.
3. BECAUSE YOU SAT WITH THE HARDEST OF SORROWS, YOU FOUND THE DEEPEST JOY
This is sound advice that each and every one of us will find meaningful. Although life is not always easy, a positive outlook will prevail if we can concentrate on the joy, surprise, and comforting moments of lightness, happiness, and hope despite suffering.
4. ACCEPT THAT GIVING AND RECEIVING A GIFT HAVE REAL VALUE
Knowing that someone took the time and trouble to give you something, and vice versa, is tremendously considerate. The key is not how much you spend, nor is it about size or fit. Knowing who you’re donating to and making them happy when you do so are key. It is infectious to watch the joy spread over their face when they get an unexpected present. It’s simple to access happiness when we can’t find it in other ways.”